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So how do introverts and extroverts interact? Susan Cain says that it can be difficult in terms of communications and conflict resolution. She says that introverts typically are conflict avoidant while extroverts can handle conflict better. Also she says that introverts tend to like people they meet in friendly contexts, while extroverts tend to like people they compete with.
So how do you handle the interaction between the two? The author says that the extrovert needs to learn how to calm down, take a breath and speak up about the conflict when he is calmer (looking for a win-win solution). For the introvert it is to accept that she might be wrong (and not get stuck in the guilt of it) and also to fight back (e.g. - in a way that stops the anger from the other side).
Introverts can engage in healthy communication and conflict resolution through engaging in conversation in their own way and by understanding that their dislike of conversational multitasking is real.
She also says that parents can help their introverted children by understanding their way of being and then slowly introducing them to new things and new ways of being without pushing them into it. Therefore they get used to interacting and being ok with novelty. Also it is great to help your child find a passion that they can lean into and truly find themselves in as confidence grows from being good at something. Relationships between extroverts and introverts can and do work but sometimes just take a bit of understanding and empathy about how the other type interacts with others.
Overall the author advocates for allowing introverts to be themselves and contribute to the world in the way that suits their temperament. If they do come out of their comfort zone for a sense of purpose then allow themselves some restorative periods.
As a Myers Briggs certified instructor a person and/or a leader who is introverted can be just as effective as an extrovert for both are personality styles and neither is better than the other. Each has their unique way of being and interacting in the world and it is imperative to stay true to who you are as a person or as a leader in order to be the most authentic and effective you can be.
Do you know what personality type you are - Extroverted or Introverted, Sensing or Intuitive, Thinking or Feeling, or Judging or Perceiving? I am an INFP. As a recently certified Myers Briggs practitioner I saw the depth and aptitude of the tool and am appreciative of how much research, application, and experience have gone into the validation of it. I also saw how accurately it depicted personality types. It was great to see how types tend to act or deal with things in certain situations and to see what the basis of personality is.
But one of the best things about the Myers Briggs type indicator is how much insight it gives you into other people’s personality types, and therefore how to work with those people. In building teams or organizations it is a great way to be aware of how teams may work together and/or what kind of conflict may occur.
Some organizations tend to hire the same type of personality type (e.g. - a company I currently consult for often hires ISTJs) which can reflect a strong organizational culture where employees are really bought into the values and core beliefs of the organization. Other organizations may have a mix of types which can indicate diversity, dialogue, and constructive idea generation. Both types of organizations can work and thrive.
The question is how do these organizations leverage those personality types for growth and how does it manage them in conflict? For example what personality type is going to help you market and sell? Which type will be creative? Which type will be visionary? And how can you get the different types to communicate in order to resolve conflict?
Knowing your team’s personality type can be very beneficial in answering the questions above. If you or your organization is looking to understand your team better, know how to leverage that team, and resolve any conflicts within that team taking the Myers Briggs Assessment can help. Come talk to me today about getting your assessment done today! Or check out Myers Briggs lite reports online at: Online Tests. Check it out today!
Monica Thakrar has over 18 years experience in business focused mainly on strategy, change management, leadership development, training and coaching resulting in successful implementations of large scale transformation programs.