Even in caring and loving partnerships conflicts arise. Deep insecurities surface. Disagreements occur. And in a powerful union that doesn't tear the two apart, but deepens the resolve and love to work through the tough times together. While insecurities can push the other away for some time, in love the the two have to work together to truly thrive. One thriving and the other not is not a healthy union. Both people have to rise to the level together to be able to commit to a fruitful future together.
In the times of Covid these arguments are heightened, deeper partnerships emerge, and deep insecurities come as well. With the togetherness that arises in quarantine times loneliness is no longer available, but joy also goes away some in the darkness of picking out insecurities that arise when love is blossoming. With deep care however insecurities can be managed, love can right size, and bonds can deepen.
Through these arising conflicts focus on compassion as well as deep care for the other person. Use care to soften the jagged edges and humor to lighten the moments. Though conflict can be heard deeper levels of partnership and intimacy can arise through growing the family unit rather than continuing to shy away from it.
What conflict do you need to have? What do you need to work through to deepen your partnerships or family units?
As you grow in power, authenticity, but also trust healthy partnerships with friends, a romantic partner, colleagues, as well as those you socialize/work with become easier. As a leader networking is critical to success. And in life partnership is like breathing oxygen into an otherwise deeply lonely existence.
With joy comes relaxation of the the heart, tenderness grows, and now deep soulful attraction can arise due to limitations within no more but trust of the world, of what is arriving being exactly what is needed, but mainly duty to the path emerging in front of you finally feeling right not mixed wires (e.g. - needing it, but it truly not feeling good). I know I had a long path to feeling joy and tenderness, and now kindness towards myself but also truly towards others as well, (but not in a self-martyring way, but in a way that caresses the other without giving up on the self).
All of that internal work of self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and building up the muscle of resilience (e.g. - strength and power) truly elevated me through into doting on myself so much that I attracted someone to me who dotes on me just as much and I am capable of doing the same towards him. As I now open up to joy I can truly deliver on power to the external world because I am also truly happy and joyful in my own world.
What do you need to do to feel lit up and powerful in your world? What would bring you joy and authenticity in your life?
As I have learned to master letting go I realize that everything that I was so worried about going wrong was only happening because I was worrying. I realize that the root of all of the things not working in my life was my own insecurity creating those worries to come true.
With more faith and trust in my own abilities and creativity I began to flow with my dreams, my desires, my inner vision and thereby let my intuition guide me in making decisions which led me directly into the vision I wanted. All I had to do was let go and truly flow with my own sixth sense. In the past I blocked it, resisted it, fought against it, but now the deeper parts of me realize that it was not working. So they let the reigns go and truly went within. Once I was there I was able to hear my deeper voice and then take action on the wise instincts I had within.
Once I let that happen everything began to work out better than I could have ever imagined. The dreams I had been trying to make manifest for years but never seemed to come true, now were popping with ease and dexterity. All I had to do was dream about it and things began to emerge. What do you have to let go of now and let your dreams guide you towards?
Monica Thakrar has over 18 years experience in business focused mainly on strategy, change management, leadership development, training and coaching resulting in successful implementations of large scale transformation programs.