Growth After Struggle
Once you have faced a struggle, or a "wake up" call as I like to say, you must take the appropriate measures to slow down, take stock, and figure out the right path forward. Sometimes "wake up" calls are the best thing that can happen to you if you heed the lesson quickly and don't continue to move in the wrong direction (busyness, overwork, not slowing down). Once you slow down you can hear the intuitive signals, the wisdom in the body, the calls for opening up to new directions, new paths, and take stock no more but quickly go down the new paths.
When I recently had wake up calls in multiple parts of my life the rest was critical and allowing the wisdom to flow through, but the heeding the wisdom, taking action, but mainly agreeing fully to make a new decision for a way forward has been essential in me leaving a lasting legacy which truly aligns to my purpose.
When you have a wake up call heed it. Pay attention. Change course. And make progress in the right path for you!
Full Authentic Leadership
While there can be a lot of self-awareness often times we still have things we might not know about ourselves. Learning about ourselves can be a lifetime journey but we can expedite it through slowing down and actually listening to our own bodies. The wisdom in our bodies is so clear if we put down the work, busyness, and/or fast pace to just listen. Power is not all ruthless or mistrusting, but it can be mishandled if we don't put it alongside trust, faith, and deep care for others. Our bodies can help us to understand when the time is right to block more power through forcing us to slow down but we can do this on our own through paying attention to the signals. These would look like:
Knowledge vs. Wisdom
Knowing something intellectually is very different from understanding it in the body and emotions. While we may know that relationships matter, that trust grows with time, that adjusting to the decisions of others even if we don't think it is fair, actually being those actions in the world is much harder to do. Understanding the ways of trust, empathy, and heart based decision making is different when they are known in the wise parts of us to be good for us emotionally rather than a warning of being not right. When we are quiet enough to drop down into our hearts, into wisely opening up our wisdom within then we realize that heart based leaders and organizations will only work in the end. Otherwise we lose connections, relationships, and/or power is the only thing people are attracted to about us.
In order to truly allow the knowledge to deepen we must strengthen our power of joy, of trust, but mainly of dedication to softening and allowing our hearts to be of service not just in knowledge, but in faith that by doing that more people will enjoy coming along with you than just those attracted to the power. The ego finally gets in the way no more and the wisdom can flow through you. Allow that wisdom to grow and understand that care for others, empathy, support, and now trust will develop through modeling that and being it rather than just knowing it in your head.
Love as a leader
When you become one with yourself love begins to flow out of you thoroughly. Most importantly companionship expands, love takes over, and the deep interpersonal bonds begin to grow even more deeply. For when you solve your own internal forces then happiness comes out of you and you no longer can be torpedoed by distance, the push pull of relationships nor the internal forces within which may sabotage your efforts to move forward.
Love, or care in the workplace, is deep and profound. It works to enliven the currents of interpersonal relationships but mainly it is the wisdom within that drives separation no more but togetherness. In business you need other people. Teamwork drives strong healthy environments, but the ability to interact and enjoy other people is critical. Love enlivens those possibilities while still instilling in you faith, hope, and distance no more.
Lean into love when it is part of your being. Begin to grow the forces of change to inhabit much more isolation no more but companionship, embolden yourself to join in with the togetherness and partnership in work and in life. Let deep interpersonal relationships thrive especially now that the things which kept you in non-partnership have fallen away.
In order to have strong relationships strong communications and conflict resolution skills are necessary. While initial attraction or chemistry/fit might bring people or organizations together, strong voicing of what is on your mind, open mindedness for differing conflict styles, opening up to being adaptable to the other's viewpoint/way of operating being to lay the foundation in any relationship. And when issues occur bonds deepen through communicating and dealing with conflict effectively. Avoiding it, running away, and/or brokering deeper bonds through just trying to shoulder all of the burden does not work.
In order to grow together people must voice what is on their mind, communicate when things are wrong, and then come back and repair the bond when mistakes/failure has occurred. In the end deepening bonds only come when there is safety/trust, when there is the growth orientation to want to work together, but mainly now the root of the issue is the willingness to work together to enhance the bond rather than not give effective feedback, not focus on working together to work through issues, but mainly it is the care between the two to want to deepen the bond...
If the initial attraction leads to the fire to want to deepen even through issues that is when true bonds occur professionally or personally.
Monica Thakrar has over 18 years experience in business focused mainly on strategy, change management, leadership development, training and coaching resulting in successful implementations of large scale transformation programs.