When you are living your values and purpose you are in in alignment with your highest self. While things may still be hard at some points there is clarity, development at a deep level as well as joy in the everyday because you are living so on purpose. 

Since my daughter has arrived so many things are falling into place. The role of mother has enhanced my deep development as I am aligned finally with the things that matter most to me - family, faith, and giving back to others. While the real me always had those intentions becoming a mom finally put family first as my daughter is so important to me. Faith has been a guiding principle in my life for a long time, but now I am much more focused on the clarity that it provides to me through living reaching for my highest potential. And finally giving back to others is becoming much more aligned career wise as I am moving more towards transformational work in my coach training, in doing much more leadership training work for the corporate world (but those who also want to do good in the world) and finally now aligning again with the mindfulness and resilience work I got trained in back in 2018. While all of that work came naturally it is because I aligned myself more to my purpose and those things just seemed to arrive.

As I leave my old doubt behind about how I can truly achieve what is most important to me I settle into a value driven existence which is fueled much more by caring, empathy, compassion, as well as trust in the guiding forces of life.

After so much time working in the human potential field and all the while doing the work on myself as well I am fully in the present now. What I mean is that motherhood has really brought out the most authentic version of myself - strong and nurturing, giving and allowing myself to thrive, open and quiet no more but challenging the aspects of life which no longer power me or help me to join with the real tribe I thrive alongside. 

For doing the work internally especially when working to help others to do the same is so important. I can now authentically show up emotionally as well as spiritually in terms of being loving and caring of others and myself.

Due to the deep connection I have with my daughter I have a deep purpose and that fulfills me in such a profound way. It buoys me up and thereby allows me to grow as an individual not only but dutifully as the partner to others I happily accept being. 

What do you need to shed in order to live your best life?

As joy has taken over my heart new opportunities are flowing to me personally and professionally. I am delving deeper into creativity by creating two new video based courses (out this spring) as well as now pursuing more partnership possibilities. The heart is the gateway to relationships as well as creativity and now that mine is so wide open due to my daughter's arrival I am able now to open up to both of those dreams I held for so long. 

While it is just the beginning I feel like there is so much space to belong, to nourish, as well as to thrive for the possibilities now are readying themselves no more but actually arriving. Due to the wellspring inside of me I draw to me now those aligned to joy, to heart possibilities, as well as those now ready to grow together. While I no longer live so undernourishing of my deepest needs, the values inside of me are propelling me into the growth possibilities which I was worried I would never be able to achieve for so long. Now I realize that it was all part of the growth process and that I am now capable of achieving them due to my heart orientation now rather than solely my head one. 

What are your heart dreams? And how can you go about achieving them?

 With all of the change in my personal life last year I was a bit distracted from going full force at work. That being said some wonderful new opportunities came my way which has pushed me into new directions and as a result new and great career trajectories. While I wasn't looking colleagues recommended me for opportunities and/or reached out to me to partner with them for opportunities which were in line with growth areas I wanted to build, but hadn't had the space to do so before.

As I needed to clear out space from my schedule to make time for my daughter's arrival I had to say no to opportunities which opened up space for these new ones. And I am grateful. For the work I began last year is aligned with who I am and the values I hold dear. It is still teaching leadership but focused on the commercial sector and for businesses who want to do good in the world. I also spent more time on Mindfulness and Resilience work as well as online work. As a result I am set up really well at the beginning of this year to launch more deeply in the career trajectory I have been wanting to lean into for some time and those things came to me with support from my network. For that I am truly grateful and thereby continue to allow things to flow as well as be persistent in moving towards the type of work I desire.

​What new ways of thinking/operating do you want to consider in your career in 2022?

Happy New Year! I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday season filled with love and gratitude. I am eternally grateful for the wonderful time I spent with family and decided that friends are now those who I see regularly not only but those who deliberately make time to stay connected and supportive.

For a big change that happened in 2021 was the choice I made to become a mother. As a result some people no longer dreamed the same dream as me and thereby moved away but more importantly I chose to ask for what I needed more frequently and began to see who showed up. As a result more and more time was spent with my immediate family and we grew as a unit. I am forever grateful to them and my heart has expanded to include more time for them too. And more and more time was spent with other families with children who could understand the phase I am in. I realize just how true it is that life stages truly determine friendships too. I am grateful for friends who are there for seasons, reasons, and lifetimes but most importantly to grow with others through times of change as well as times of stability. 

Here's to a wonderful 2022 filled with family, friends, and lots and lots of love!

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As 2021 ends and I focus on what I cherished the most I would say welcoming my daughter not only but the family coming together more and more as a result. A deep division was healed within who I am as well as I now come together and prioritize the most important aspects of who I am - being a partner to those I work with and belong to as well as being a mother. For the deep interpersonal partnerships around me now organize more deeply around those who I trust with my partnership goals as well as those whom I can depend on to support my growing family.  And I now admire the mothers out there who have been so caring and deliberate in nurturing their homes, families, and partnerships. I am now one of those women and for that I am eternally grateful!

As I now transition from full time mom to working mom I realize that having a child in my life makes my working life and home life now both fulfilling. While I was so content work wise before there is space now to enjoy my child as well and see her begin to thrive as she settles into daycare, spends time with her grandparents/family as  well as now making family friends where we both enjoy spending time with the others.

Now I realize what I had been teaching for so long. Align with your purpose, your values, your dreams and things flow much more, decisions are easier to make, as well as now I see all of the roles I want to play and have the capacity to play as well. Now that I am content in both my work and personal life I feel like the dreams I have had for so long can come true too. As I see the new gaps now I can lean in and begin to take action there and really take things to another level.

Where do you you still have to grow and how can you take action on it?

By aligning with my deepest dreams, desires, and now fulfilling through becoming a mother I feel SO much lighter, more enlivened, but mainly free from the deep yearning for something that I had not achieved yet. I am so much more deeply fulfilled at the soul level and thereby opening up emotionally to joy, care, love, and now deep determination to succeed for my daughter's sake. Succeed to me means having deep fulfilling relationships, being kind to others, showing empathy and care, and now opening up my heart and soul to give to my daughter all of my love.

In the work world this means focusing so much more on commercial work as well as Mindfulness and Resilience courses that provide deep nourishment to those who participate and learn the lessons that they receive in the courses. By aligning to much to my deepest dreams opportunities to do more of the work I love have naturally flowed to me. A colleague reached out to me to co-teach a Search Inside Yourself class which we started in August, an old friend hired me to teach an Adaptive Resilience course to her team, and a colleague referred me to a new organization teaching virtual leadership classes to private sector teams. It is all the work I love and adore and wanted to move more into and I feel like the spiritually things come when you truly take the leap and take courageous action towards your deepest dreams.

What dreams do you still need to make movement towards?

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After a long and arduous wait I finally became a mother on July 2, 2021. I adopted a little two year old girl from India after a three year process. I am so in love and holding my baby daily makes me more so in each moment. While I dared to fly and go for my dreams it was a hard wait and a painful process.  I was so close to getting my child in April, but Covid in India delayed my trip for 3 months. But in the end the soulfulness gained during that time was worth it because I had to dig deep but mainly let go and truly have faith that I was where I needed to be. 

It all worked out in the end. My daughter is the biggest blessing I could have ever imagined. It has drawn me closer to my parents, brother, and niece/nephews, but mainly it has given me a purpose so much bigger than just myself (e.g. - more than just the fulfilling work that I do). I have always wanted to be a mother and to make it finally come true at a later stage in life is physically tiring, but emotionally I was so much more prepared to be a mother than I could have ever have been before. Thank goodness for following through on my heart's desires. It has been so emotionally fulfilling to finally have a soul to nurture day and night and truly fall in love so fully. I am filled up and there is so much more to be experienced together.

These first seven weeks have been a tiring time in my body, but my soul is so alive with joy!

With tides shifting life is beginning to see some movement again. As a result the pause I was going through is lifting and I am beginning to see the end of the tunnel. While those pauses are so hard and painful even, they do help you to grow and strengthen yourself as you focus on the present moment. Because you can't prepare for the future you must then dig deep and be resourceful in the here and now. It is in those moments that you feel your pain, allow for the results to fade away and just put your faith back into something bigger that things are happening as they should. 

You grow in these moments and you also see who comes through for you, who supports you, and who is truly there for you. You also see who are there for the good times alone. And while both are needed the ones who come through in the pinch are really the true support system. They are the ones you know will come through for you in thick and thin and those are the ones you also go to the mat for.

Finally in these moments the tools of mindfulness, staying healthy (body, mind, spirit) and leaning on your support system are so critical. It is in these times that the patterns of limiting who you are and not being authentic also leave because you are so in the present that your authentic voice begins to come out through and through. Lean into those moments which are tough for they show you what you are made of and who is there for you. Trust in the process and know that what goes down must go up.