As a leader it is important to cherish and honor the people who work for you. As the holidays approach it is a great time of year to appreciate those who are near and dear. The holidays remind us of generosity, kindness, hope, love, and peace. As a leader it is important to show your employees as well as your loved ones just how much they mean to you. So lean into the spirit of the holidays, cherish those who are deeply important to you, and appreciate all that is honest and pure and peaceful in this world.
Happy Holidays to you all! Peace be with you!
In times of emotional development we often feel like things are not happening fast enough and/or the universe does not have our back. And yet it is often in these cases that there is a need for an adjustment in view, in perspective, and/or in how we are perceiving things. Challenges force us to make changes and grow and truly understand what it is that is meant for us to continue to grow into. Other changes are a relief in allowing us to see that there is another way to be participating in things. It is important to be resilient in these times of change, in maturing, in living more fully up to our potential and yet it can be hard giving up the dreams we once held to be true and allowing a truer pursuit to grow in our hearts and minds.
So how do we stay centered and grounded during these challenging times? Appreciation. It is such a focus on what is good that allows flow to return in the challenging areas of our lives. How do you focus on appreciation?
-Focus on what is working - even in challenging times there are some areas of our lives or our business which is working. Shift your attention to those areas as you develop a strategy or plan to deal with the challenging areas. If you can shift your attention your mind can relax and come up with better solutions.
-Be grateful - focus on gratitude and you will see more of what you are grateful for emerge.
-Lean into the people who are supportive of you - the more that you reframe the challenge and ask for support then you can truly open up a heart and mind space aligned to growth.
How can you focus on appreciation during tough times that you are facing? What is one thing you can be grateful for?
When you are going through a difficult time or your vision is not panning out as you expected it to, how can you stay grounded and centered during these times? Mindfulness is a great tool to enhance your resiliency during difficult times. What are the benefits of mindfulness?
-Learn to accept things as they are - we often want things to be a certain way and get upset when they are not. Mindfulness is a way to accept what we are feeling and thinking in the present without judgment.
-Begin to reframe our fears and thoughts - often we are reacting in a fearful way to changes that may be occurring around us. Mindfulness allows us to see a bigger picture and focus on what is the reality of the situation instead of fears which may be leading things astray.
-Allow for solutions to arise - often fear and judgment cloud our way of looking at things. When we settle into the present our mind can relax and focus again on opportunities and solutions to problems.
So how can you practice mindfulness?
-Sit comfortably in a quiet room
-Close your eyes and focus on your breath
-When your mind wanders (as it will) bring it back to a focus on the breath
-Allow your mind to relax and be in the present
-Sit like this for 10 minutes to begin. Increase the time as you get more comfortable with the practice
Are you going through a difficult time? How can you begin to practice mindfulness?
As leaders we often have a plan, a vision, a goal that is front and center and a huge focus of where we want to go (both as a leader, but more importantly as a whole). What happens when things don't go as planned? It is often hard to face the unplanned, unexpected situations that arise and knock us off course. And yet it is a huge part of life and the development as leaders to learn to face adversity or challenges. So how can you remain resilient when those unplanned situations arise?
-Be optimistic - while it is hard to deal with setbacks, having an optimistic mindset can help a leader focus on finding opportunities in the challenge and look forward past the current adversity.
-A strong sense of awareness and centeredness - be aware of how you are thinking and feeling during times of adversity. By being aware you can then focus on how to shift unhealthy thoughts or behaviors that you are exhibiting during the difficult times.
-Have a strong support system - lean into your network of colleagues, friends, and family who can support you through this uncertainty. Having people to talk to and lean on can help you sort through how to handle things and get a new perspective.
-Have strong problem solving skills - once you identify a challenge, focus on how you can solve the dilemma at hand. Being adaptable and finding new ways of handling situations can lift up your spirits.
How resilient are you as a leader? What can you do to enhance your resilience skills?
Monica Thakrar has over 18 years experience in business focused mainly on strategy, change management, leadership development, training and coaching resulting in successful implementations of large scale transformation programs.